My husband and I have been married for 12 years and have 5 children. The first 10, I had a very rocky relationship with his parents.
To go into all the details would take forever, so I’ll just pinpoint a few.
My oldest two children are not my husband’s, but he adopted them. (They have no contact with their biological father or his family) There has always been obvious favoritism of our 3 children that are their biological grandchildren. This has been a major issue for me and my children and it even worsened when my father-in-law, told my husband and I, in front of our son, that he is not his blood.
My mother-in-law has always carried tales and played the he-said, she-said game. Two years ago, she lied about something my husband said. She purposely tried to turn my husband and his brother against each other…they actually didn’t speek for some time, also. At this time, my husband stopped talking to his parents.
My husband’s brother became engaged to a woman. I contacted this woman as an attenpt to get my husband and his brother to reconcile. They did. My brother-in-law married this woman, who also has children from a previous marriage. When the same issues of treating the step-grandchildren so badly, my brother-in-law aslo stopped talking to his parents.
Part of me would love to never have to see/talk to these people again, and part of me feels bad that my husband has no family involvement other than his brother. He says he would rather it this way because he is tired of dealing with all the stress they bring into our lives. (Our marriage is better since he stopped contact)
Anyway, my whole point is that sometimes I feel as though I should try to forgive and renew a relationship with these people, but most of the time, I think that I shouldn’t. I want to do what is right in the Lord.
I know the bible says to honor thy mother and father, but it also says for husband’s to leave their fathers and mothers and cleave to your wife. Is it ever o’kay to break ties with your family such as we have with my in-laws?