[quote=Halo’dbehisname]Perhaps I may relay my story - perhaps it will be theraputic.
My In-Laws have wreaked my marriage. When my wife and I met, we each owned our own house. The decision was made to sell mine and live in “hers”. That was the first mistake. My Mother-in-Law keeped entering the house even if the door was locked. For instance, if I was in the basement doing something-whatever-you cannot hear the door bell ring from down there. Anyway, numerous times I hear some commotion up stairs and I run up thinking…what the?..only to find my mother-in-law. She would say, oh…I rang the door bell and no one answered.
On another time, I was coming out of the showere naked, grabbed a towel and was heading out the bathroom door and “what?”…there was my Mother-In-Law…again with …“oh, I rang the door bell and no one answered”. She is very controlling, brought my wife to tears many times. When she phones, my wife would look on the call display, see it is her mother and not be in the mood to be belittled etc, so will let it go to message. She will really get ti next time and be admonished for no one ever answering the phone.
The in-laws send allot of money our way - let me explain. They will decide “their duaghter’s” house needs new siding…so they order the siders etc…etc…and pay for it. They will decide that the house needs new windows…so they put everything in motion and tell my wife. They will decide the roof needs to be replaced…etc…etc… Our financial situation would not allow us to do it. My wife does like the things done. She says nothing to her parents about the intrusions.
Let me give you another example. My wife’s sister and her husband went away for holidays for 3 weeks and asked the Mother to water plants etc…no problem. When they returned, their house was newly painted on the outside, the inside and all the furniture moved. The Mother said it was time for a change. They do the same “financial” gifts over their as well. The husband just about lost it.
We eventually changed our lockes (Mother-in-law had keys)…and she found out hers did not work. We went for vacation, had our neighbor watch the place. While we were gone the Mother-in-law went to the neighbors to get the key…made a copy for herself.
I spoke with her politiely, she took it as an insult and her walking in seemed to increase. My wife does not do eanything. Now the Mother-In-Law started talking bad about me when she came over…I would be in another room and I would overhear it…in my own house. I spoke to my wife…she will not stand up for me. She says her parents are her parents. Unfortunately, I do not think she is strong enough, yet I hate to say it but she would not want the money train to stop either.
One year we had booked off three weeks for vacation - as usual…and haden’t decided what to do yet. In the mean time, Mother-in-law booked a plane ticket for her, my wife and my wifes kids…for holiday…during our booked vacation time. Then told my wife. At first I telling my wife that that was inappropriate, to intrude with our time together, I calmed down,…they all went to DisneyWorld…I stayed home.
The $$$$$ spent on the house allows them to own you. Yet they never asked me. They just do what they want.
Any worse stories?
Can you just move and not tell them where you went?