I have a sister who is 9 years older than me (going on 35 this August) and she and her husband are struggling to get pregnant while my husband and I have been blessed w/ 2 little ‘surprises.’
She fell away from the Church many years ago. I did too for several years, but I was blessed to have some wonderful people in my life to lead me back home to the Church.
She has resorted to IVF which she knows I do not approve of, but I try to put my ‘issues’ aside to be there for her (albeit over the phone half-way across the country). We have usually been able to discuss all sorts of sensitive subjects, but on this point she has been very reserved. After 3 unsuccessfull attempts, they are taking a break and will start trying again w/ the IVF in a few months.
I don’t have much to offer her in the way of advice or consolation, our babies have pretty much fallen into our laps. I want to urge her back into the confessional and back to the sacraments, but all I can do is pray that God will help both my sister and I to accept His will, whether that means conceiving on their own after 5+ years (as I know 2 couples have), adoption, or helping me to accept her pregnancy using IVF.