I have searched the forums and have yet to find a satisfactory answer to what is a somewhat (?) unique circumstance.
My wife (a Presbyterian) and I (cradle Catholic) have been married for 9+ years and after our first biological child, we discovered that our biological child was indeed a minor miracle because my wife is for all intents and purposes infertile. Subsequently, we adopted two beautiful children and have a very happy family.
Now, she is a little older (approaching 46) and feels totally incapable of managing a household with more children. As such and without my consultation and despite being 99.9% incapable of children, she scheduled and had a cervical cap placed. She asked that I have a vasectomy but I naturally refused to do so.
From my perspective, I am not certain how to approach the intimate aspects of our marriage at this point. Practically, we cannot engage in procreative relations but she independently assured that by her decision to use contraception. If I want to be intimate with her, I am doing so with the knowledge that the act is inherently incapable of being procreative, thus being a sin?
Thank you for your kind thoughts on this topic?