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This is inspired by another thread in a different sub-forum. I know that issues of inheritance and money break up a lot of families and cause difficulties between siblings, sometimes leading to permanent estrangements.
I saw this happen in one family and it was sad. I've been out of touch so I don't know if they healed the wounds but I saw a great deal of bitterness.
I think that most of us have seen this sort of thing and you are right it is sad. Very sad, because one immediately sees where these poor souls have set their hearts. Not on Christ and Heaven, but on self and earth. They need our prayers.
The other thread plus my experience made me wonder, is there anything that can be done;
There are things that can be done - yes. The best time and place to start is when the people are children and they are raised right in the faith. If they are not raised right, or if it "doesn't take", there is little that can be done.
does "preaching" to people ever work?
It might depend on what you mean by "preaching". Trying to talk (preach) to someone who is in the midst of an "inheritance squabble" will likely have little effect. The conversion of the heart generally needs to be done gradually.
And can estrangements be healed later?
Yes. People change - wounds can be healed...But it is much better to avoid it in the first place by clear, loving, communication.
*Also how can the parents handle things to minimize the chances of this? *
Of couse - There are a number of ways this can be done.
A well written and precise Will is the best way. Monitary assets should be divided equally. If there is some reason why this or that heir receives more or less, and the parent chooses not to address this while living, this needs to be spelled out in the Will.
"Real goods", furnature - keepsakes etc.... can be addressed in a will, or can be given away (or promised) before death. My Grandma had tape on the bottom of many things with the name of a child, or grandchild. That person had expressed a desire to have it, and so she labeled it. "First come first served..."
I'd like to understand this better and preferably never face it in my own life b/c what I saw was really terrible. thanks.
The thing to remember is that many times the squabbles are not so much about the money as they are about interpersonal relationships - how this or that one is being treated. Many times the seeds of these disputes are planted years earlier. Close, loving, families will generally work things out. Contentious families will continue to be contentious.