In regards to sinful thoughts, one can be doing them, realize what they are doing, and then stop the thoughts by suppressing them, changing the thoughts, or ignoring them. When this happens, the person had no intent to sin, so they are either committing a venial sin, or no sin at all.
Makes sense to me. However, I am wondering how this concept applies to non thought actions. Lets say you are being rude, realize it, then stop being rude. Or perhaps one is gossiping, they realize what they have done, then stop. In either of these cases, the person wasn’t really thinking about what they were doing until God let them realize their actions, allowing them to stop.
How do actions that we do absentmindedly apply to intent? I know for certain that I often absentmindedly get grumpy when talking to my parents about college. This doesn’t seem like Grave Matter to me because nobody is getting seriously hurt. I usually try to stop when I realize what I have been doing. I’ll usually say that I’m sorry for being rude, but my parents usually don’t feel I was rude to them, so perhaps I am overly analyzing the “rudeness”. :shrug:
This can also apply to lying, detraction, and pretty much all sins I can think of. If you do something absentmindedly, it seems to me that the person was lacking intent. However, actions are different from thoughts as thoughts often pop up when we don’t want them, due to the fact that thoughts are rather difficult to control at times, especially when sleepy.