I really need some advice about my relationship.
I am a Catholic and my boyfriend is non-Catholic, we’re getting serious about each other and would like to get engaged soon. But I am having doubts because of our lack of a shared faith. For myself, I realise it will be a somewhat lonely journey but I think I could handle that. The thing that worries me is the spiritual health of any future children.
I’m not ultra-traditional about the ‘role of women’ etc but I do understand, there are differences between the sexes and for some reason children ‘take’ better to a religion if taught it by their father than their mother (obviously, it’s better to have both). I guess this is to do with men’s natural leadership qualities. I have heard of statistics about that and found it to be true in various families I know.
I’ve discussed this with my boyfriend and he says he is happy to bring up any children Catholic, including:
teach them to say their prayers at night (though not, I suspect, distinctively Catholic prayers)
come to a Catholic church every Sunday with me/us
learn the basics about Catholicism so he can answer questions from any children (but of course not all his convictions would be Catholic e.g. about primacy of the pope, he presumably won’t want to teach them those things he disagrees with, just where it intercedes with mainstream anglicanism)
encourage them in things like going to confession, first communion etc.
He does believe in God and we do sometimes pray together. I feel that all these things are positive, but will they be enough? Are there any ways I can compensate for his lack of Catholicism and ensure my children grow up with a really strong Catholic faith? I really really don’t want to break up with him because of this so I would appreciate advice on getting around it somehow.
By the way we are trying to save sex for marriage and have discussed NFP etc, he is ok with all of that. He has said though that he definitely won’t convert though. :nope:
Thanks for your help.