First of all, I hope this is not too personal a question for all of you. I am somewhat newly married (in my 3rd year of marriage), and my husband and I have been disagreeing on the following situation.
We took a one week vacation, with my parents and our two young children, and stayed at my brother-in-law’s home (he’s a bachelor). Towards the end of the trip, my husband made it clear that he wanted to engage in intercourse. I didn’t feel comfortable with it for a few reasons. For one thing, the walls are paper thin in this house, and it echoes like crazy. I wasn’t sure that I would have time to wash my own bed linens before leaving for home the next morning. The kids were asleep, but my parents were still awake and packing up their things. When I told him that I was uncomfortable with the idea (and that we’d be in our own home the next day anyway), he got frustrated with me, saying that he thought I was just giving him petty reasons. He says that it’s common knowledge to my parents and his brother that we do have intercourse since we’re a married couple, and that I shouldn’t be so worried about it.
So my question to you is, what do you see as good etiquette when staying at family members’ homes for similar amounts of time?