I’ve seen interfaith relationships function in terms of friendships… But I wonder if it’s possible for it to function in terms of romantic relationships or even as far as marriage. I’ve researched and spoken to several Catholic priests and nuns. Most of them typically discouraged romantically engaging non-Catholic individuals. They have points because the most important elements in any relationship include religion/faith system. My research turned up these passages though:
“The main predictive variable of a couple staying married is not their religious affiliations, but the communicative capacities of the partners. Some interreligious couples have a better chance of staying together than similarly-affiliated pairings because they have had to discuss their ‘predicament’ with honesty and depth, learning how to be both open and convicted with each other. Successful communication and conflict resolution is the greatest predictor for ‘marital success.’”
Along with a rebuttal:
What about when you have kids, how will you raise them? Many people return to the faith of their youth when children enter their home. Suddenly, being Catholic and Atheist could matter. What will you teach your children? That one parent holds the truth and the other a lie? That these competing beliefs are both truth, as though black can be white at the same time?
When it comes to core values, I do not believe it is possible to be in a serious relationship with someone and not either compromise those values or become resentful at the fact that you’re not able to fully express and share in that experience.
In essence, my question is this: is religion a deciding factor as to whether or not a romantic relationship or marriage will succeed?