I attend daily mass before work in the morning. After mass I have some time where I am able to pray in the church. I really treasure this time to pray for several reasons. Its the only time I’m able to be in the church with my very busy schedule.
A few weeks ago I met a lady at my church and have become somewhat friendly with her. She also attends daily mass. I like her, but… she’s annoying me in that, every day after mass, she insists on speaking to me. Just shooting the breeze type of stuff, nothing important. This has gone on every single day since we met, except for a few days where she was ill and not at mass.
To begin with, she would interrupt me while I was praying immediately after mass. At first I just accepted this, because I didn’t think it was going to be every day. Then after it happened quite a few times and *was *every day, I started getting annoyed so after mass I changed pews and went to kneel right in front of the tabernacle. This didn’t work though because she would follow me there and interrupt me anyhow. Finally I said to her, “I would like to pray after mass if you don’t mind.” She agreed and apologized for interrupting me.
So fine… I thought the problem was solved. But the very next day, she began sitting in the pew right behind me during mass, and then after mass, sitting there waiting while I prayed. It doesn’t matter if I pray for 5 minutes or 30 minutes, she sits and waits the entire time until I am finished and then comes and starts chatting to me. I find it very unnerving and distracting knowing she is behind me, waiting for me to finish my prayers. I have a hard time concentrating on praying as a result.
I’ve tried to view this situation as a trial or a cross, and offering it up. I’ve tried praying for her, and thinking to myself that perhaps she is lonely. But I’m finding it really difficult overall, since its every single day.
Today I was struggling with a personal issue and I wanted to pray about it, but of course she was behind me in the pew again. Internally I started getting angrier and angrier about it, even though I was trying to stay calm and ignore her it bothered me. Finally I gave up on praying. She was talking to someone else so I quickly stepped out and went to work. When I got home today there was a message on my answering machine from her… “Judith, you didn’t say hi to me after mass today!” :banghead:
I don’t know what to do about this situation. Should I continue to offer it up and pray for her? Be kind because she really wants to speak to me? Or should I be more direct with her and tell her again (I have a few times) she’s disturbing me? I’m honestly really conflicted and would like some opinions.