Last Christmas, I went to confession the day prior because I got into a verbal argument with my husband and threw my rings off in the car. During confession, the priest asked me if I had apologized to my husband and my initial response was yes. I wasn’t trying to deceive the priest but simply answered yes without taking anytime to think it through. It was an automatic response. After approx. 5 seconds or so, I realized that I didn’t think I had apologized at all. I didn’t want to just leave with the yes I had said without thinking about it, so my next response was, “well… kind of… actually I think I need to re-apologize in a more verbal, formal manner when I get home.”
Basically, I wanted him to realize that I was going to make the situation better without looking like an idiot. I know that simply telling him my yes is not correct is what I should have done, but in the moment I felt like an idiot and was worried what he would think of me.
I have problems with being scrupulous so I explained the situation to my husband, after apologizing to him:), and he felt that the priest understood that I didn’t feel I had made an adequate apology.
I let it go after that but it popped back into my head and wanted to see what you all thought.