As you all know…I’m still not divorced:banghead:!!! It seems like this is taking forever:rolleyes:. We’ve reached an agreement, the problem has been the drafting of the documents.
When I got my first set of docs I went over them and asked for the necessary changes to be made. First, only my son was mentioned as being a product of the marriage…I told them to put my little girl on there, so it would read that there were two children from the marriage and only one living. Secondly, I wanted the docs to read “adultery” and not “irreconcilable differences” as to the “why” of the divorce. I get a call and an email from my attorney that these two things didn’t need to be changed and it served no purpose:eek: !!!
So, I get the second draft of these docs and sure enough this wasn’t changed:mad: . I went through all the docs and corrected what I thought they missed the first time around…and again brought up these two things. I feel very strongly about this, first my daughter was very much born and he was the father!!! I want her acknowledged, just because she’s no longer here doesn’t mean she didn’t exist!!! Secondly, the adultery on the paperwork…that’s why we had irreconcilable differences:doh2: , had he not done that we just might still be together!
Well, I finally got on the phone with someone today and had to fight to add my daughter to the docs and to add, specifically, adultery. She told me that it’s never done because it’s a no-fault state and that she’s never seen it on divorce papers. She also said she didn’t know if opposing counsel would admit and allow the language in the final divorce agreement. I then explained that he got his little girlfriend pregnant while we were married and living together…in fact that he had us both pregnant at the same time:eek: ! She then said…OH, so there is proof that he committed adultery…and I said yes…two kids:rolleyes: !!!
When she understood why I wanted and needed that in the documents she figured out a way to write them in. I told her that I wanted him and his mistress to see that we had a little girl that was no longer here…remember, he didn’t even show up to her funeral. I want to remind him that she existed and I want both of them to see why the marriage ended…his adultery. Also, when my son grows up and wants to know what happened I want it clearly written in black and white in a legal manner, just in case his dad ever wants to blame me!!!
I just can’t believe I had to fight my own attorneys to put the TRUTH on legal documents…this no-fault divorce is for the birds!!! Do you guys think I did the right thing in insisting that the docs read this way? I’m just sick of people getting off the hook so easily…sick of it:mad: !!!