My husband and I went into marriage practicing NFP and always keeping an open mind that we would have as many children as God blessed us with. Then I experienced hyperemesis TWICE!
For those who don’t know what it is, it’s debilitating nausea and vomiting that landed me in the hospital with IV hydration and nutrition for a good 10 weeks both times. The effects are devastating on both the mother and the family. It was worse the second time around because I had a child to care for who was constantly afraid of Mommy dying, and to be honest, so was I. The pain and agony from the nausea (along with the complications that came with the sickness), and the constant thirst and hunger is a hell I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. While in the hospital I was visited by a priest who was shocked by my condition (it’s rare). I told him I knew the teachings of the Catholic Church and wanted badly to abide by them, but there was no way I could go through this again. He said he completely understood and that it would be okay for me to get an operation after my baby was born (we’re due in December).
After talking with my husband and comparing the risks, he thought it would be safer and quicker for him to get the vasectomy procedure. Now I’m being told by my very Catholic mother (who butts into my business too much) that the priest I spoke with did not know what he was talking about and that I should speak with another priest and that we could be excommunicated! I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. Of course she doesn’t want to see my go through that again, but she has no other options for me that would guarantee I’d never be pregnant again (unless my husband and I never have relations again) and I can’t believe the Catholic Church would want to put a woman at risk and that there aren’t exceptions. I’m totally sick over this. Any advice/help is much appreciated.