What if a son tells his father that that he could carry that bushel of apples into the house easily, and you say, " No way; it is too heavy for you, you can’t do it".
Then the son carried it in rather easily.
Did the father lie to him?
I don’t think so. I don’t believe that was a deliberate lie, but a statement made after considering the strength of his son and the weight of the bushel. But, perhaps in many eyes, the Father made a statement that he could not do it and the son went and did it, so that constitues lying to the son Did that lie constitute a sin?.
What we need is a good definition of what is really a sin. A deliberate statement knowing the facts and then saying the opposite of what one knows to be true, or thinks to be true, is probably a sin; but perhaps the father knew that his son might be able to do it, but was afraid he might get hurt and that was his way of saying what he did…
Now I admit the father could have been more specific as to why he felt his son shouldn’t carry the bushel basket, but that wasn’t the case here.
We probably often say things that may seem like a sin, but that wasn’t our intentions. It’s like a mother telling her 5 year old son not to play outside in the dark because a boogy man might get him - I heard that when I was a child. That was my mother’s way of keeping us indoors. But was that a sin, made to a 5 year old, and was it a sin against God? I believe God, with his compassion, might just pass that off with a little bit of a chuckle. I don’t know.
I realize saying something that is not true is a sin; but there are different kinds of sins and different kind of circumstances that might provoke these different kinds of sins in order to prevent harm to someone. I wonder what my confessor would say if I said in the confessional that I lied to my 5 year old son by saying not to go out in the dark because a boogy man might get him?
I wonder if a mother told her small son (not talking yet), not to touch the electric heater because it is hot, when it really wasn’t. SheI just wanted to teach him a lesson that may prevent him to receive a burn in the future.
I know, a sin, is a sin, is a sin, is a sin.