Listen…she is NOT the only one with these kinds of issues here, but these pressures are NOT her fault.
I have a friend of mine who was almosted** ABORTED**! Yes, you heard right. He was almost aborted! His mother did NOT want an abortion, but somehow the doctor did something to try to force her to have an abortion, against her will, anyway. She said it was at a time when they were trying to force women here to not have children. So, stranger things have happened here, believe me when I tell you.
Now, the mother in question is VERY Catholic and did NOT want an abortion, but somehow or other, don’t understand quite how, I don’t know if he wanted to give her medication, but I guess she didn’t realize, till after the fact, what it was.
Anyway, the child, my friend, survived. Years afterwards, she told him what happened, and he was FURIOUS! However, she told him that she forgives the doctor for doing this to her and that he must, as well.
However, he wasn’t able to walk until he was 2 y.o., seemingly due to all this. However, now, he is fine in every way.
Now, I would like to tell you that we, here in some other countries, sometimes have our doctors even LIE to us, and try to force us to do all kinds of things, against our wills! So, please take this into consideration when you act in judgment of her.
I once had a doctor, here, tried to force me to have a thyroid operation. Initially, I wanted it, then changed my mind. He told me, “You’re getting this surgery!” I said, “No I’, NOT!” Do you know, he scheduled it, and I didn’t go, and they got mad at me! I went back and said, “I want to be reassigned to another doctor!” I said this after I was scolded for not showing up for a surgery, but I told him, repeatedly I would NOT go after all. I think a lot of people here succumb to the lies and pressure.
I am routinely told all kinds of things that I need to check out later. I can sometimes talk to 5 people here, get 5 different answers about almost anything!
She has come to this forum, and I thought that was good, since we can’t trust even our own doctors, etc., for any kind of reliable information here, Please don’t make her regret turning to us and trusting us!
Realize she is dealing with a VERY, VERY hard culture! She is at a TREMENDOUS disadvantage, because she’s a foreigner, dependent on the whims of the government policies, which may change overnight with no explanations given!
Please be compassionate, understanding, caring. Realize that not everywhere is like the US, that there is a ton of misinformation, and I, even though I have a college degree, have also believed all kinds of these lies, fallen into all kinds of traps.
In the US, these people would all be sued, but this is NOT the US. Please keep that in mind.