Here is the situation…
On Sunday morning, 15 minutes before our usual 11am mass, we are getting ready to go. My husband who is busily playing on the PS4 announces that his back is sore (lie) and that he will be attending the 7pm mass. Immediately 2 of my kids pipe up and say that they want to stay home with dad. As an aside, it has happened in the past that the 7pm service has been missed because logistics are difficult at that time
I went to our regular service with 2 kids and 2 kids stayed home with dad.
My afternoon was spent driving around to various shops, when I get home I found out that my husband’s afternoon was spent drinking and that he had already announced to the kids that he wasn’t attending church. I wasn’t shocked by this or even really upset, I just told the kids that they now had to factor in enough time to walk to church. They did not argue and everything was OK.
As I was bringing in some of the purchases when one of my husband’s friends asks me where I went, what I bought and just making small talk and my husband loses it " Excuse me but we were having a conversation here before you came you are not invited here so leave"
This made me extremely upset and angry to be treated like a piece of dirt by my husband, not to mention in public.
I am trying to work on my anger but at which point am I to be a doormat for my husband to wipe his feet on.
Also, It worries me that I am teaching my girls that this is a proper way to be treated and to my son that this is a proper way to treat women. My son is already imitating my husband’s behaviour (he is 12)
Is this anger a sin? Isn’t it normal to feel anger when treated horribly by your spouse? How am I to respond to this insult?