My fiance and I are practicing, chaste Catholics who are joyfully marrying in June. We are getting married out of state (a HUGE headache as far as getting licenses, I’m just now realizing–if anyone has advise about this, let me know), and in May, he needs to re-enroll in his AMAZING and CHEAP company health insurance. Here’s the catch–my health insurance through my employer is super expensive, and he can only choose a new plan once a year, in May. We cannot choose the family plan unless we are already married.
Is it morally permissible to be civilly married just one month before our wedding-- living “as brother and sister” for that month of course-- and then to have the sacramental marriage? This is just an idea we’ve had, not something we’ve really pursued yet. We would not consider that wedding a marriage at all, just a formality so that we can get on the same health insurance. We both have enormous financial obligations and every little bit will help. It would save us literally thousands of dollars, not to mention if I get pregnant this year/early next year, which is my joyful hope.