Our priest, a good and holy man, beckoned the parishioners to clap for one of our auxillary priest’s birthdays yesterday after daily mass and some teenagers in the crowd (that normally attend an ultra-traditional parish on Sundays) chided my son for clapping along with the priest. It hurt my son’s feelings and left a very bitter taste in his mouth because of their “holier than thou” attitude about it especially since we are recent converts and these are cradle Catholic kids. My son asked them why it was so wrong since the priest had said, “The mass is over” and they did not give him an answer other than, “Well, you’re just not supposed to do that at mass.” There have been occasions, too, where this priest has recognized other people for his or her birthday as well that have come after Holy Communion and after the host has been placed back in the Tabernacle but before the concluding rites.
I’d like to have a better explanation as to why this is wrong, if at all. The parents of these teenagers display the same disdain for our priest for doing these types of things as well. It feels very hurtful that they think we don’t attend a “good enough” parish, especially when I don’t understand if their disdain is due to personal preference or to valid liturgical abuse.
This is the only parish that we have regularly attending and we are relatively new Catholics so please no flaming! I’m asking for sincere, not sarcastic or haughty, replies.