This post below was from another thread and posted today. Only slightly off topic, but in my opinion relevant and appropriate. Exceptionally well written. Should be read by every Catholic. Male. Female. Engaged. Married. Single of marriageable age.
Today, 5:31 am
Join Date: June 1, 2004
Location: Northern Illinois
Religion: Roman Catholic
Re: Wedding Night
This is an explicit post, but I think that it is appropriate. The Bible says that older women should teach younger women how to be good wives. That's what I'm doing.
I've been married 31 years. My husband and I were both virgins on our wedding night.
Your husband will be very turned on by you. I guarantee it. Even if you're fat or ugly. The key is that YOU are comfortable and confident in your body. Men love it when women love themselves.
Several years after we were married, I gained over 100 pounds. I'm definitely fat. I've lost some of it recently, but I still weight 215 pounds--a big lady.
But never once have I felt like my body was "ugly." IMO, I am the sexiest, hottest, most arousing woman in the world and always have been. And my husband agrees.
One of the things that I do is "use" my body well. I hope you don't mind if I am explicit. I have sexy big breasts, and I make sure that my husband sees and feels them. I use them to turn him on. He doesn't pay any attention to my flabby stomach because he can't take his eyes off my breasts!
I also make sure that I do plenty of Kegel exercises to make my pelvic floor very strong, and my husband absolutely loves this! If you don't know about Kegel exercises, talk to your gynecologist or doctor and learn how to do them. It can really help both of you experience better sex. (And it also helps you not to leak urine when you get older.)
Here is a sure-fire way to make sure that your husband has a wonderful experience with you on your wedding night and every night: Show him your pleasure in his lovemaking. I'm not talking about "acting." Fake moans and writhing will be a turn-off.
What I'm telling you is to enjoy what the two of you are doing together. THAT is the hugest turn-on for any man--knowing that he is giving exquisite pleasure to his wife. Definitely be vocal--you don't have to scream and gasp and act like a movie star. But those little moans of pleasure will be immensely arousing to your husband and his pleasure will be greatly increased. Show your pleasure in your facial expressions, in your eyes, in your excitement. Let him know that he is appealing and attractive to you. Tell him what actions turn you on (using his tongue, his fingers, whatever). If he does something painful, make sure you are gentle when you tell him to please do something else.
I would suggest reading through the Song of Songs in the Bible and following the example of the woman in that great erotic book. She is literally panting for her husband to make love to her.