I have been with my boyfriend for over two years, and we have been practicing chastity. About a year or so before I met him, he had left the seminary. He was there for about three years, and left the seminary for a variety of reasons, including a desire to have a family. We have been dating for over two years now with the intention of marriage and family eventually.
About three weeks ago, my boyfriend lost his job as a social worker due to an unfortunate mistake he made. He also lost the internship associated with his Master's program. Between his job and internship, he worked nearly 70 hours/week. Besides church, soccer, myself and his family, this was his life.
Two days ago, he told me that he's been thinking about returning to the seminary. He said he's been considering this for about three to four weeks, and he's praying and talking with God in order to discern whether this is truly God's call or if he is just creating it.
I do believe that he is confused, but I am frustrated. From the very beginning of our relationship, my boyfriend and I have discussed the possibility of him wanting to return to the seminary. Every discussion has ended in my boyfriend's assertion that he loves God, but he wants marriage and family, and he can serve God in other ways. Even after telling me he is considering a return to the seminary, my boyfriend told me that he does still have the desire to have a family.
I am concerned about my boyfriend, and as his best friend, have shared my concern with him. I have encouraged him to continue to pray and to perhaps speak with a Father whom he trusts and/or visit local seminaries, including the one he attended. But at the same time, I do not know how serious he is about this, because he has been applying for new jobs. He knows that if he enters the seminary, he will not be able to keep a job. I worry that losing his previous job and internship has really rocked my boyfriend's world. I have always encouraged him to build his relationship with God, and I still do encourage this. I am also praying that he is able to gain clarity, and I am praying to have faith in God's love. Quite honestly, I am in shock. I want him to be able to discern if God is truly calling him to the seminary, but I also love this man dearly, and I have wanted and still want to grow old with him. He is an amazing soul and would be a wonderful priest, or a husband & father.
We have agreed to be friends in the meantime, and to give one another space to think and pray.
I am looking for guidance on how to best support him while he discerns whether returning to the seminary is God's call for him? Also, does anyone know of any specific saints to whom to pray, either to help him discern God's calling or to help me have faith, patience and love?
Thank you & have a blessed day!