My mother is raising my 3 nieces.Their father lives with them but barely participates in their upbringing.
The 16 year old niece has gotten into some trouble that involves stealing and lying and getting drunk.
Grandmom is raising the nieces Catholic
The children are made to attend Mass and go to Confession.(but and this is a big but) Grandmom also does many questionable things that are poor example to the children. She lies for them by writing excuse notes to their teachers when they are too lazy to finish homework assignments. She has had stolen cable services. She allows them to sleep over their other Aunt’s house(she is living with a man she is not married to)She fights with them,cursing at them, allowing them to be abusive to her. She lets them run the streets and doesn’t know where they are.
When I point out to my mother her bad example, she denies the sinfulness of her behavior. Calls her lies, white lies, says stealing cable is not really stealing etc. Yet she is zealous about making the children go to Mass, receive their Sacraments and go to Confession.
Another thing is she is convinced that we are living in the times when God is going to do something about the way people are living. She is fixated on natural disasters, always talking about the end times. At the turn of the year 2000. She had the basement stocked with food and water because she believed something terrible was going to happen. I think she is nuts and she is really destroying the faith of my nieces under a totally false example of what our faith is about. I know they think she’s crazy and maybe(I don’t know whats in their hearts) they only go to Mass to keep her happy. Please know is very much in control of these children and short of a court battle with their father, mother and possibly grandmother I can’t remove them from this situation.
What to do?