I need your opinion/help with something… I’m in my mid 20s and I’ve been dating a wonderful Catholic man in his late 20s for over two years now (the best years of my life!). In other words, our relationship is a positive and fruitful relationship.
He is the kind of guy who tells me all the time that wants to get married and start a family with me, but when I start asking him more concretely as to when are we going to do it, he freezes and tells me that it will be in the future. Of course, having all of our Catholic friends getting married and having children when they haven’t even dated as long as we have, I’m getting pretty frustrated and I just don’t know what to do.
I asked him directly if he was planning to marry me or not, because if he wasn’t, then I needed to move on, because it wasn’t healthy otherwise. Well, he said “just so you know, I’m planning to be married by next summer” but then turns around and asks me if next November sounds good to get married. He also told me that he told his parents that we had been dating for two years already so we had reached that point that we either had to get married or break up.
Anyway, if you leave it at that it seems that he wants to get married, but all of our friends who are planning to get married by next summer are already engaged and he’s the kind of guy who talks a lot, but doesn’t act, because he’s always “waiting” for something. He doesn’t even need to save money to propose, because we decided that we’re not buying an engagement ring.
I really don’t know what he’s doing and he just sends a lot of mixed signals. It’s almost like I don’t want to bring it up, because he may feel I’m pressuring him, but at the same time, it’s not fair for me to just sit around and wait if he doesn’t want to marry me.
Any advice? God bless!