Is it possible that hell could be giving the person the life they want, even if it involves separation from God – and the damned are happy with their condition, whereas, from the perspective of those in heaven, their condition is miserable by comparison – i.e., those in heaven have so much more and realize what the damned are lacking, even though the damned don’t?
Think for example of sinners on earth who say they’re happy: Those with drug addictions, or living promiscuously in fornication. For example, I recall protesting a porn store and a patron taunted us declaring his love for porn. By contrast, a happily married man has so much more – a real relationship, not fiction, and so forth.
To be clear, according to this conception, hell is definitely to be avoided and the damned are to be pitied: Like someone preferring a $100k car instead of a $1 billion lottery prize (okay, the porn v marriage analogy was better – but I think you get my meaning).
Jesus describes darkness, wailing, grinding of teeth, parched tongue from flames (though in this parable, the wealthy man who neglected Lazarus might be in purgatory?), but couldn’t this be to help us understand hell from the perspective of heaven? Or again, it could be by comparison: Public transit in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania is filthy compared to public transit in Japan, but the people living there are accustomed to it and don’t mind. They even brag to new people about it as a good thing (it’s cheap, convenient, sophisticated, etc).