I’m always reading posts about couples where one spouse isn’t Catholic. Am I the only one who thinks its crazy to marry a non-Catholic (or even a “cafeteria Catholic”)? Now, I’m a young single guy so I’m just throwing out what I’ve thought about the subject so I’d love enlightenment from the married folks out there! Who knows, I’m probably way off base.
If you can’t agree on he fundamental Truth, isn’t that a bad sign for future agreement and discord? Relationships involve a lot of compromise, but the faith is not compromisable, so doesn’t this create problems?
I imagine it would be better for the spiritual development of children if both parents were on the same page religiously. Wouldn’t it create some sort of dissonance for the children if Mommy and Daddy believe different things? Can you simply tell a child that what one parent believes is wrong? If it’s ok that one parent doesn’t believe something, wouldn’t that make it seem less important to a child?
Finally, I will love my wife with all my heart. I could not imagine just sitting back and allowing her to believe something that wasn’t true and that could be damaging to her soul. Respecting differences in faith, to me, would be indifference to her soul. I would feel I needed to do everything in my power to help her to the right path. Because I loved her so much, I think I would just be in total depression to know she is being led astray.
I mean, sure conversion is possible, but I would prefer this to happen before marriage. I’m not sure if a marriage should be the tool for evangelizing. That just doesn’t seem like it would make for a good family dynamic. And what if the person refuses to ever convert (for family reasons or otherwise)? Then what?
Anyway, it seems to me that marrying someone who’s not on the same page religiously is just a recipe for strife. Strangely enough, other differences I may have with a woman don’t really matter to me. There’s really not a whole lot I stand firm behind except for the teachings of the Church. I’m extremely flexible with pretty much everything else. Maybe I’m just a wierdo:whacky: .
I’d love to hear thoughts on this subject!