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Does anyone know though, if there exists an official/formal Church answer or instruction, in relation to this question?
I would think that one preparing for the priesthood would receive some kind of instruction on what to do in the event that, as a priest, he begins to develop feelings of romantic attraction towards another human being ...
Yes: Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's spouse. The priest is married to the Church.
Well, stop thinking that. The burden is on the Christian woman to keep her distance. Who cares if he has training or not? My heaven, do you know how many priest's lives have been ruined due to some unexpected moment alone, etc? Priests get "hit on" in the Confessional, and now due to all the abuse stuff, I even know one who was "set up" by a woman to make it appear an affair and he was innocent. Priest / Love = NO, just don't go there.
You so much as brush his shoulder with your hand and I assure you someone will notice and it will be the parish headline in 24 hours and both your lives possibly ruined.
I'm exaggerating? This is serious. Men are not qualified to answer because they don't realize we can have them in bed in five seconds with a look. Women answering ought to realize the vulnerability of the priest and their responsibility to respect him AS IF HE WERE CHRIST. In persona Christi, think of him that way.
We all have fallen in love with the wrong person, puppy love to adultery to whatever. It's hard to resist. But we all have that temptation. Just because he's a priest does not give you a unique excuse that "we're just friends" or "I can't help myself" or "I know he needs me."
You must (I keep saying 'you,' maybe this is for a friend, but for the sake of typing) keep in mind that the burden is greater upon you to not be a temptation to him. If you're in love, it's hard to avoid those long glances and extra questions.
But you must because as a man he will sense your attraction. It will either draw him to you and pretty soon your at "Thou shalt not commit adultery" instead of just "covet" - or it will cause him to pull away from you probably in a state of confusion and anxiety. Most men take until age 50 to figure out how to cope with these temptations.
Also, per Canon Law, the penalties on a priest for sins "contra sixtus" are very severe. Don't jeopardize his soul. Get over your love. If you have to avoid him, get a guy-pal, go to another parish, join something.
There is an ugly expression I was taught on this forum for a type of woman who flits around priests, or gets crushes on them, etc: "Collar Chasers." They are around. There is something alluring about the mystique of a priest. Your love is not so special nor your situation unique.
Well, in short, I suppose you can surmise my answer: YES, it is a sin to be in love with a priest. You should not even hug him even if every other woman in the parish does. Why would we want to be a source of temptation to him? And you know it's a slippery slope, just a drink, well, dinner, well...hello hell.