Three years ago, at a time when my marriage was falling apart, I met a man, who was also married. He was the first and only friend I had made in this new city where I lived. We became friends and we fell in love. Neither of us felt comfortable with the idea of just “having an affair” and we both, being Catholic, also knew that it was a grave sin to be unfaithful to our spouses, no matter WHAT was going on in our marriages. (Mine was REALLY bad at the time). So, we parted ways, (no talking, no seeing eachother, no nothing)! I stayed with my husband, in spite of his numerous infidelities both prior to and after my friendship with this man. It was the most difficult and painful thing I had ever been through.
In the last year, my marriage has improved in many ways and my husband has also grown very much spititually. However, after all this time, I have never stopped being in love with this other man. I don’t see him or talk to him - but it’s still there. I love my husband, but not the way I should. I want to, but I am beginning to wonder if it’s possible. He is a good man, and he deserves so much from me, that I WANT to give him I don’t know if it’s just because of the betrayal on his part, or what. What really concerns me, is wondering if it’s a sin to love someone else, even if I am remaining faithful to my marriage vows? I feel so terrible about this. I have no where else to turn, Can someone please offer some insight?