So, I don’t even drink alcohol at all for various reasons, and I’ve never done this myself. I’ve also never consciously flirted with men for any ulterior motives.
However, I do know women who admit to flirting heavily with men in bars, not with the object of hooking up with them, BUT with the object of getting the men to buy them free drinks and other goodies.
Indeed, one such woman stated she would never actually hook up with a man if he bought her drinks, and seemed offended that I’d think she would. “I only believe in having sex if you’re in love”, she told me (I know this isn’t enough reason to have sex per Church teaching, but unfortunately, in her social circle such a stance is seen is borderline prudish.)
But, it seems obvious to me that their M.O. is to get men to HOPE they have a chance for “action” if they buy the women their drinks. I can even see men stating this kind of behavior is deceptive, or even borderline malicious, assuming such women want to not just trick the men, but to actually humiliate them. Is that, therefore, sinful?
I also once heard a woman known as a fast driver, saying that she didn’t have a radar detector in her car because if she ever got pulled over for speeding, “I’ll just sob and wail at the cop, and hope he lets me off with a warning – and if that doesn’t work, I’ll flash my chest at him”.
Again, I doubt this woman would seriously consider actually doing more than that to get out of a ticket, she wouldn’t actually have sex with the cop. And she may have been joking. But I assume flashing your chest to get out of the ticket is also sinful.