My wife and I are practicing Catholics.
On a recent Friday afternoon, my wife told me she had an appointment for the following Wednesday to get a tattoo on her wrist. We discussed it a little bit. She indicated it would be a reminder for her to “love unconditionally”. Both of her sisters had a tattoo just like it. I begged her to reconsider urging her to try drawing with a marker on her wrist or getting a bracelet to see if it would actually help her. Then Wednesday came. Again I begged her to reconsider. She went and got the tattoo.
She keeps her wrist covered and positions it so that the children and I don’t see it, which seems considerate. But I feel betrayed. Everytime I see her, I see the things on her arm to cover up her tattoo which isn’t really any less painful than seeing the tattoo itself. I told her how I feel. While she says that she is sorry that I’m hurt by it, she is not sorry for getting the tattoo. She now says it was a “little thing she need to do for herself”
While this does not appear to be breaking any commandments, I can’t help but wonder if what she did is sinful. But I may be confusing it with my pain and wishing it was sinful to console myself. Is this a sin against our marital vows or against the Catholic teaching of male headship in marriage? Maybe I just suffering from an inflated case of wounded pride.
If it is sinful, is there any material I could read and encourage her to read to inform both our consciences?