Recently, I have found myself in an uncomfortable situation:
I have a small circle of good friends, all of whom are practicing Catholics. We get together on a regular basis for movies, dinner/drinks, etc. (Age range of these people is mid-twenties to mid-thirties.) A little less than a year ago, I ended a brief dating relationship (3 months) with one of the men of the group, “Rob.” We remained friends (probably an unwise idea); and before long, we were both spending time with our mutual friends again as though nothing had happened.
Then, a couple of weeks ago, one of my other male friends from the group (“Mark”) asked me on a date, and I went with him on a second date as well. When Rob found out about it, he was upset and (I think) hurt. Both Mark and I have since talked to Rob about it, and I think we are on reasonably good terms again. But I know that if Mark and I continue dating, we won’t all be able to hang out again as we used to.
So I guess my question is threefold:
- Was I wrong to go out with Mark, given the circumstances?
- Does it speak poorly of his character that he asked out his good friend’s former girlfriend? (or am I making it a bigger deal than it really is?)
- Is it just a bad idea all around to date within one’s circle of friends? As I think on it, I am not sure that it is worth the potential drama and awkwardness. If I want to keep things the way they are with my good friends, I would have to end things with Mark now before it goes any further. I really don’t know what to do.