Thank you so much for anyone alive out there that is able to read this. This is my first post on Catholic Answers. I’ve been following the forums seeking advice over the past year. I’m very thankful for all the good people out there including the many great priests that teach the faith well. I know the devil’s favorite color is gray and as the title goes I need to add some color to this subject. This is why I’m here in hope to know the truth. I don’t usually agree with forums and opinions as it seems to be a cluster of disagreement over and over again. I have to trust that there is such a thing as moral absolutes. I believe I’m in the right place. It is said: “For where two or three have gathered together in My name, I am there in their midst.”
I know He is here…
I need help on this issue with a fallen away member of my family that is near death in the hospital. My uncle, who I haven’t had a good relationship with over the years is dying. I cannot truly speak for his faith alone. He has been baptized in the Lord from a Catholic Church. But from what I am hearing and have seen, the faith is gone. I could give specifics of this but I to a certain extent leaning towards this rationale. I know we should not despair the salvation of anyone and I must pray him and my family members. Some of the family members closest to him who communicate with the doctors specifically state that they do not want to tell him that he is dying or (close to it). They claim it will be better he didn’t know. It might upset him and then he will die they say. Is not fear of the Lord a good place to start without being crude about it? My uncle thinks he’s going home shortly and no one wants to speak out the truth. The truth that I feel could change things at the last moment. I feel hurt by this guilty silence that screams out. No one wants to talk about religion, no one wants to speak the truth. Everyone got together for his birthday today at the hospital. (Which by the way is a Catholic hospital) There was no signs of praying or concern so it seemed. Some of the immorality among my family members there disrespecting Christ. Laughing and carrying on as if they where hanging out at the bar hurts. Even comments were passed as laughable as “see you in hell” “save me a spot” were said as if to try to be cool with my dying uncle and others. His own daughter bought him playboy magazines to cheer him up. :eek: Yes, Seriously. All while good nuns and priest are roaming about the halls with the holy Eucharist. I really honestly hate this and perhaps this is why most of the family members on my mothers side don’t communicate with my fathers. How, I ask this can be so so so cold? I mean a man is dying obviously have respect for him. It was strange while singing happy birthday as if some where wishing him well into hell. Most visiting him haven’t seen him in 10 plus years, including myself. I showed my respects and told my uncle I loved him and went down to the chapel in the hospital to pray about this matter. After this, I step outside and get cussed at by a random stranger calling me a mother*( ) for no apparent reason? I’m here tonight up late disturbed by this. My mother and father who are close to me and the catholic faith all feel the same way. My dad really wants to say something to him but is scared he will cause a scene. His family members always seemed to ridicule him for his faith in Christ and speaking the truth over the years. I feel so stuck in the middle. Is it my place? Should I intervene? I asked myself that If I was going to know that I was going to be dead soon (and could be God willing) I could repent? Offer up my sufferings. All of which I should be doing right at this moment anyway…
I should stay up and pray at 1:25 am for a little more. But I’m here asking for help as I don’t have access to a priest at the moment. Is it ever mercy not to tell someone they are dying?
If anyone out there could help me pray for this situation, just a short simple prayer for my Uncle Rich, My family and all the trails the devil puts me through. God Bless.