In my state the law allows people to handle their own divorces. A person seeking divorce and handling it themselves downloads the paperwork on the county website, fills it out, prints it, and then takes it to the court to be filed. Once the filing is complete, the first hearing is in 3-4 months and the divorce can be granted at that time provided both parties agree on division of property. The total cost is $20 for the papers, $180 filing fees, and $16 parking fees. If the respondent needs to be served professionally, there are additional fees for that. The process is fairly easy, just a lot of standing in line to file each separate copy with the correct person before moving on to the next line. Some people find it confusing and a bit difficult, but it’s really quite straightforward.
I did my own divorce (ex and I had no property other than personal and he wasn’t fighting for the kids or even parenting time). I also assisted 2 friends with their divorces in the same way. But this was all before I was called to convert.
Now I have a dear friend who has a 19 year old daughter that married last year. Let’s call her T. T married her BF in a civil ceremony last spring just a few months after she turned 18. They are not catholic. They lived with his mother for about 6 months in another state, had some drama, and then came back to live with my friend.
A few months ago, we had some drama with T’s young husband refusing to work, doing nothing around the house even when asked to by my friend and her husband, and stealing. T got a job and was fully supporting them both. She totally lost any respect and romantic feeling she had for her new husband.
Around February, my friend started noticing some strange behavior and discovered that her daughter, T, was having an affair with a man she met at work. Once everything came out, T left home and moved in with her BF. Her husband hopped a bus back to his home state a week later.
T wishes to divorce. So does her husband. But they have limited funds and T isn’t very good at…well…a lot. She’s a bit of a derp, God love her. She wouldn’t make it through the process on her own and needs help. Since everyone knows about the divorces I assisted with in the past, T has asked me to help her.
Since they have no property, other than personal which has already been divided, and no kids, I can help her get her divorce inexpensively. The question is, should I? Is it immoral to assist with a divorce?