[quote="Monica4316, post:1, topic:248999"]
I'd be interested in your thoughts.
I've said many times that my father appeared in my room the night he died, started with an apology, we talked and at the end he gave this almighty scream and disappeared.
However at one stage I accused him of wrecking my vocational choices. His reply was, to my surprise (and I suspect his too, going by the expression on his face), "It's not even important!" When I asked him "Then what is important?", he replied "How you treat other people".
So if that was my father at the time of his own judgement, then he somehow see that "success" was not important. As Paul stated, "The things men think are important God thinks are foolishness". And we know what Christ said about the rich - it was harder, He said, for a rich man to enter heaven than for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle, and that they had already received their reward.
However ... if you have a track record of continual frustration, and feel like a failure, or that you haven't achieved much, then it's one thing to hear this flat statement and theoretically agree with it, but it's quite another to bring it home to your senses, especially when the world and the media emphasise nothing else.
That is what makes this particular teaching hard to take. Especially if you get criticised for what appears to be a lack of success. Sometimes too, other people can do a lot of damage, and it can be very difficult to convince other people that your apparent "failure" is not all your fault. And when pastors et al use "successful" Christians as examples in their sermons, it makes it harder still.
In short, the theoretical answer is "No, it's not important for Christians to be successful. How they treat other people will be far more important."
The practical answer is that it's very hard to resist the temptation to pursue "success".