On the drive home from Mass this morning I was thinking about how my relationship with the Church through my parish has changed over the past decade. Not too many years ago I tried to be fairly active in my parish. I attended Mass of course, I facilitated a Bible study group and was involved with the liturgy as a reader and an EMHC. I also made it a point to attend parish BBQ’s (back when we had them), music events, stations of the cross, etc.
After years of being treated poorly by a succession of pastors (and watching others being treated even worse) and not wanting to be around those who clung so desperately to their lay positions in the parish while driving everyone away, I slowly became a “pew sitter.”
It wasn’t a conscious choice but my only connection with the Church today is strictly Mass on Holy Days of obligation and quarterly confession at a neighboring parish. When I hear the horror stories of what’s going on (or not going on) today, I can just let it go in one ear, grin, and then let it go out the other. I really don’t care anymore. Being concerned about such matters almost drove me away from the Church more than once and I’m just not willing to risk that anymore.
So my question is, is it OK to be a “pew sitter” at Mass? Is it OK to dodge/ignore requests to serve in liturgical ministries or in ministries outside of Mass? When I pray on it, it seems that it’s OK to be a pew sitter with one possible issue – if fewer people became pew sitters over the years, the Church might be in better shape today?
Any personal insights would be appreciated. Thanks.