I was reading a thread someone posted about their in laws, and it got me thinking…
I am the oldest in my family and my husband is the oldest also. We get along so great because in part we agree on mostly everything when it comes to relationships with people.
I am getting to the point where I cannot handle certain behaivior from adults.
For instance my little sister that just had her baby is living with her **VERY ** did I say VERY verbally abusive boyfriend. He is so caustic to everyone that he makes me want to :hypno: vomit!! I told her yesterday if I hear that he becomes physically abusive to her and or the baby I will call CPS on her. She has made the choice to live with this person so she will have to deal with the consequences of whatever happens. Try as he might he just can’t get it together. They live in a makeshift house/garage across from his parents. That they themselves also are the same way my sisters boyfriend is. I was hoping that they as older adults they would try to rectify their attitudes but it just does not seem to be something they are willing to do. Anyways they dont bother me just the whole situation. That my sister is so weak minded and has allowed this in her life.
Are my in laws I love them but I don’t like them. They treat our children differently and my kids can see it now. They have no regards to how they make my dh feel. I limit my contact with them because I don’t want to say something that is not nice. They don’t like me because I do so much that they dont agree with.
So how can I be ok with not getting emotionally attached to these people. Being the oldest I think I feel responsible for my sister which I know that I am not. I just dont want to feel guilty anymore for not wanting them around. I dont say much but my feelings are otherwise.
I guess I just wanted to know if this was being uncharitable and unchristian of me? Should I just turn the other cheeck at all times?