This question is going to sound silly I’m afraid because of the circumstances which caused the debate. Last night my wife and I were in disagreement over the appropriateness of keeping work-related issues and conversations from a spouse.
During the course of a pleasant conversation my wife has abruptly stopped herself midway-through and said, “I can’t divulge that bit of info” or “I’ve been asked to tell no one.” Now, it’s not that I have a yearning or even care to know her business secrets; it’s more about the closeness factor that a husband and wife share together. She feels that it would be sinful for her to share things with me when she has agreed not to do so with someone else. I feel that it would not be sinful and that when a Christian persons asks for confidentiality he or she is excluding the person’s spouse.
The Catechism of the Catholic Church tells me that:
Conjugal love involves a totality, in which all the elements of the person enter-appeal of the body and instinct, power of feeling and affectivity, aspiration of the spirit and of will. It aims at a deeply personal unity, a unity that, beyond union in one flesh, leads to forming one heart and soul (CCC 1643).
How can keeping secrets be conducive to this?