My sister (both adults) usually generally get along very well and I’m grateful because I’m aware that unfortunately there are some people with “real issues” regarding family,but the other day my sister did said something unkind to me.
It was probably more from thoughtlessness than any mean intention,but what hurt/affected me more was that when I tried to express that something hurt me she said “I can’t deal with this now” “just move on” “I don’t have time from this” and generally just acted like she was the victim because she would have to hear someone’s hurt feelings even though she was the one that had said the unkind thing.
This to me seems uncaring/heartless,even arrogant.
To me “I hurt you but now I don’t want to deal with the effect or outcome of it and I will now make myself the victim” seems emotionally immature.
My sister has a pattern of acting this way if a conflict comes up (self emotion only focused) and I have a pattern of not being able to let something go if someone shows a demeanour of not caring or acknowledgement.
Is there any better way to look at things?