Is it really stupid to decide not to join a particular religious order simply because I don't like their habit?


#1

Love the community, digging the charism. The habit... not so much. But then I think to myself..."come on Clarkest, that is so shallow. Stop it.".

solisisters.ca/gallery.html?gallery=16&start=30

It's really just the veil I have a problem with. This is my ideal habit. Love it!
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But, again, super shallow. That black veil? Beautiful. And no belt.


#2

Love the community, digging the charism. The habit… not so much. But then I think to myself…“come on Clarkest, that is so shallow. Stop it.”.

solisisters.ca/gallery.html?gallery=16&start=30

It’s really just the veil I have a problem with. This is my ideal habit. Love it!
nunocist.org/

But, again, super shallow. That black veil? Beautiful. And no belt.


#3

I don't know how this thread was posted twice, and I don't know how to delete one of them so... sorry..


#4

I always thought nuns would look cooler in white and blue, like what Mother Teresa wore and how Jesus was frequently depicted looking like, but that would be a pain to wash, and I guess white is a fairly reserved color, since it’s what the Pope wears. With a black garb you can have ketchup stains all over it and nobody would know.


#5

We have some religious women who no longer wear habits. I would not like to be a part of that kind of order. I would find it too informal.

There are some, here, which the women don’t wear the top part, like a veil, to their uniform. They continue to wear the short hair, though. Likewise, I would not want to join an order like that were I to be in a situation where I was looking for a congregation.

Otherwise, there are generally more-pressing concerns than dress in the decision.

For example, some congregations devote themselves to prayer, almost exclusively…adoration. Others go out into the community.
Some orders are cloistered, almost never leave a location. Others are expected to travel, possibly learn other languages!

Here, in Mexico, I understand years ago, the government confiscated all kinds of Catholic places, didn’t return them! So, nuns here often set up 3 in a house they share. However, they can have other situations, but there really aren’t monasteries, per se, so I was told by one priest here.

One would need to see if one is compatible with their values, views on community, worship.

I think the vows might differ, that some may take vows of poverty, some not. Some may take other additional vows. They take a vow of obedience to their superiors. Some have vows for only a year at a time, which they can renew, if they like. Others have vows for an entire lifetime.

Some orders teach.

A spiritual director would be helpful in discernment.


#6

Oh yeah, and some setting differ. Some work in hospitals. If you join one of them due to liking the habit and then find you can't stand the sight of blood, that could be a problem!


#7

Further, they will generally have a certain style…a saint, the Blessed Virgin. You really should at least like that saint, and agree with their style, before joining.


#8

Clearwater, at the bottom right corner of a post, there is an 'edit' button if you want to add on to something that you already said :p


#9

Yes


#10

I think I know how it might happen. I think one can even hit “refresh” or “back arrow”, and it might resend! I think I once got into trouble, trying to arrow…back, back, back, and it finally told me I couldn’t keep resending! I didn’t mean to, though. This same technique works on Yahoo, and a lot of other sites, just not on this one! :wink:


#11

I don't think it's stupid, but I wouldn't let that be the deciding factor. If I were you, I would pray about it, and ask God if this is the order for you.


#12

The order where you do not like the habit is your best choice. Will aid you in learning humility and obedience, the saintly virtues we are all to strive for.

I will pray for you.clarkest.


#13

I don’t think it’s stupid, but maybe a little vain? Are you joining the community because you are called by God or because you want to look cool, or holy? You’ll figure it out. :blush:


#14

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#15

[quote="KrazyKat, post:12, topic:340077"]
The order where you do not like the habit is your best choice. Will aid you in learning humility and obedience, the saintly virtues we are all to strive for.

I will pray for you.clarkest.

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Haha that's so true! Thanks for the prayer, Lord knows I need all the prayer I can get lol.


#16

I don't think it's stupid, but I don't think the habit of the Sisters of Our Lady Immaculate is bad at all. Generic, yes, but generic is better than pantsuits imho. It is a fine habit and is worthy.


#17

[quote="YoungTradCath, post:16, topic:340077"]
I don't think it's stupid, but I don't think the habit of the Sisters of Our Lady Immaculate is bad at all. Generic, yes, but generic is better than pantsuits imho. It is a fine habit and is worthy.

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I won't consider any of the communities that do not wear habits. For me it's very important, particularly the veil.


#18

I can completely understand that finding a community that wears a habit is important to you. That being said, religious life is not a fashion show. There is supposed to be penance and self-sacrifice involved. If you really are having a hard time getting past the style question you might really want to pray about whether or not you are going into this process with the attitude of doing whatever is the Lord’s Will or whether your attitude more or less is a reaching for your own will. I clicked on the photo and expected some hideous habit, but they are really modest and unassuming, which seems like a very good thing.


#19

It seems you are more concerned about the “uniform” than of the service to God and community that your particular order is engaged in. During WW2 when many sisters were forced underground and did not dress in a full habit, were they any less close to our Lord? Please, please, please find a good spiritual advisor who will be able to help you discern what your vocation truly is. :o


#20

[quote="clarkest, post:17, topic:340077"]
I won't consider any of the communities that do not wear habits. For me it's very important, particularly the veil.

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Could you explain why the veil is so important to you?:confused:


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