My sister has a 5-year-old daughter and a 2-year-old son. This is her second marriage - she was going through the declaration of nullity process for her first marriage. Her first marriage was brief and with no children, and I have reason to believe God never blessed it.
She and her husband have recently "agreed to divorce". Neither one has given me any explanation other than their "differences" and their years of arguing. They haven't attempted any reasonable solution to these "differences" and "arguments", other than a handful of silly things.
They were supposed to come visit my husband and I soon, but now with the news of the divorce, I told her I don't want to see her. I told her she is welcome to send the kids over whenever she can.
My question is: is it sinful for me to avoid her? I cannot begin to comprehend how much selfishness it must take for someone to be so inconsiderate toward their own children. I do not feel I can even trust that person to be anywhere near me. I cannot imagine having any energy to get up in the morning to make breakfast for this person when she visits me, or take her out to local stores and shop all day until my back hurts, as usual, since she's a shopping addict.
Above all, I feel she will be a bad example for our future children. But I also worry about her children, and I am her daughter's godmother. I am also concerned she will not let me be near her children if I refuse to see her.
I realize I'm supposed to forgive 70 times seven. But she has not repented, and is still in sin. Repentance is a pre-requisite for forgiveness, even with God, otherwise there would be no Hell.
I don't feel like I love her any less than I ever did. I continue to wish, hope and pray for the best for her: conversion and Heaven. I realize Jesus ate with sinners and said "hate the sin, love the sinner", but he did that so he could tell them as it is and heal them, not to condone their behavior. My sister never wants to hear it when I talk about being a Catholic/Christian.
5 Jesus sent out these twelve after instructing them thus, "Do not go into pagan territory or enter a Samaritan town.
6 Go rather to the lost sheep of the house of Israel.
7 As you go, make this proclamation: 'The kingdom of heaven is at hand.'
14 Whoever will not receive you or listen to your words--go outside that house or town and shake the dust from your feet.
15 Amen, I say to you, it will be more tolerable for the land of Sodom and Gomorrah on the day of judgment than for that town.
34 "Do not think that I have come to bring peace upon the earth. I have come to bring not peace but the sword.
35 For I have come to set a man 'against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law;
36 and one's enemies will be those of his household.'
37 "Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me, and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me;
Am I being self-righteous and judgmental? I know that loving someone doesn't necessarily require hanging out with that person. Or does it, in this case, since she is my sister?
Thanks for your input and help in advance.