I’m female, and this may sound strange, but sometimes I don’t like my breasts. They’re not large, it’s just that I would prefer to be flat-chested, and I’ve looked up things like chest-binders on the internet, which apparently led me to gay/transgender sites - not my issue, as I’m pretty sure I’m straight.
But my question is, would it be a sin to wear a chest-binder? And is it wrong to dislike this feature of my body?
I don’t see how it could be a sin to wear a chest binder. Women have a long history of wearing garments to change their body shape to suit fashions of the times. Many womed wore chest binders in the 1920s. Many, if not all, women have features about their bodies they don’t like or try to modify either with corsetry, makeup or surgery. I think it is a bit sad when people say they hate their own bodies, but I do it too. I think we should love and respect the body that God gave us and not let it define our personhood. That being said, wear what makes you feel most like yourself.
I told myself this isn’t a thread for a guy to drop into. I told myself I’d just want to say something that’d end up wrong here. Something maybe a shade too to one side to be taken in a real way. Or maybe I’d come across as really focusing too much here. Trying a bit too hard.
But it’s also the sort of thread a guy like me can’t really dodge either.
I don’t know. So I’m trying here. Knowing all this first.
But the thing is this. I think this problem is Ok to deal with as you want. This is totally cool if you’d rather ah. If you’d rather suppress certain things. The thing is. What about if the guy in your life thinks in a bit of a different direction? I mean what if he’s um. What if he’s really into that?
I mean I’m not. But then again I’ve got sort of a sideways look in all of this. I mean my own angles are a bit off from the regular plain as it is. So take my thoughts with a bit of resistance.
I don’t know if that was really advice. It might have just been me thinking out loud. Sometimes it’s hard for me to tell the difference. Sorry.
If she doesn’t want male attention and ogling, de-emphasis of breasts might be her goal. If she is not large, braless is the way to go. Bras are modern culture’s way of emphasizing the breasts, especially if there is enough clothing to hide the nipples. If she binds too tight, it might damage breast tissue for later use as God meant them for. Never valued them much until they had a purpose.
Does anyone remember the movie “The Trouble with Angels”, starring Rosalind Russell?
There was a scene where a very timid sister was tasked with taking the girls shopping for bras, which the sister kept referring to as “binders”. She couldn’t even say the word “brassiere” ! As the girls were trying them on over their clothes, one of the girls felt faint and Sister Rosemarie kept saying “take off her binder; take off her binder”.
The problem with that is, God made men and women in a certain way for a specific reason, our bodies and their features are to be admired for their natural beauty, when we start disliking our bodies, that is the enemy. Its a good thing to look at and admire a male/ female body, as long as its not lusting, but there is a difference.
Of course, things like this in modern times are no surprise, Ive said before, if the statue of David was to go on tour, I truly believe there would people out there screaming for it to be censored, so they didnt have to shield their kids eyes LOL, another example, there was a famous sculptor who searched for the most beautiful female in the town for his next piece, turns out it was a 14 yr old girl, but the piece was made, and was adored by everyone…if that happened today, the sculptor would be arrested, labelled a pedophile and no one would admire his work…so, just a sign of the times I guess?
I’m with the other posters who suggest wearing a properly fitted bra…it doesn’t seem right to hate a part of your body to the extent you want to make it look like its no longer there…what would you do when chest binding becomes too burdensome and uncomfortable? Resort to plastic surgery and have your breasts removed to get the same flat effect?
You need to find out why you feel this way about your body before doing anything…id suggest speaking to a Dr or a therapist who can help you as most people dislike parts of their bodies but its extreme to want it to appear as though its not there any more
CCC 364 The human body shares in the dignity of “the image of God”: it is a human body precisely because it is animated by a spiritual soul, and it is the whole human person that is intended to become, in the body of Christ, a temple of the Spirit:
Man, though made of body and soul, is a unity. Through his very bodily condition he sums up in himself the elements of the material world. Through him they are thus brought to their highest perfection and can raise their voice in praise freely given to the Creator. For this reason man may not despise his bodily life. Rather he is obliged to regard his body as good and to hold it in honor since God has created it and will raise it up on the last day.
Well, I for one am not going to criticize you about this. I don’t like my breasts either. And I don’t need a doctor, therapist, or a priest for counsel. And there is nothing wrong with me spiritually and I don’t have a disturbed body image. Simply put–they are too big and they sag (cause I’m old) and they keep my clothes from fitting properly.
But I live with it. And I thank God they don’t have cancer. And they fed my babies. And I know that many people on this forum are unhappy about parts of their body, and as long as it does not become an obsession or keep them from living life, there is nothing wrong with not liking too big breasts, flabby arms, heavy thighs or a sagging belly. But that does not automatically mean you don’t like yourself, just that body part. And that is ok as long as you just accept it, and don’t let it define who you are or interfere with your relationship with God and others.
But I would not advise a binder–breast tissue is tender and binders put a lot of pressure on them. Get a proper fitting bra, and your breasts will look much nicer under your clothes.
I think they’re beautiful on a woman. Mine are small, and I don’t even like the large ones. If they are naturally large, the woman can’t help it, some even get reduction surgery. The blown-up implanted look is ugly, in my honest opinion, and I don’t understand why so many women (mainly on magazine covers) want this vulgar, unattractive, deformed look. I don’t care. Bursting out of your clothes is ugly and vulgar as hell. Breasts are just supposed to be natural, pretty, and not drawn unnecessary attention to. They truly are beautiful and natural, and I wouldn’t not want mine.
I am properly fitted, and it is snug and comfortable. But the ideal physical figure for me would be thin and sexless and more androgynous - I’m only referring to appearance of course, not actual biological characteristics.
Anyway, thanks for all your input I’m not sure I hate my body, but I think I am still working on a few things regarding it.