i don’t hate kids either. i’m just not the one to rush up and coo at people’s babies or get in to all that kind of stuff. i just odn’t have the patient to deal with the screaming, crying, tantrums and all that.
There is nothing wrong with not being a “kid person”. The church has plenty of room for unmarried lay people. They can serve in very important rolls where those with children may not be able to fill because their focus has to be on their family.
I think it is perfectly alright not to like kids.They are often a pain in the neck if you are left to look after them. However, I believe that often we change our perspective as we grow older. Some women find there are hormonal changes that affect their outlook on children.
Others find a solid marriage gives them the desire to “complete” the family.
To each their own, we all have a vocation where we can serve the Lord.
However, I will give a warning that a childless old age can be very lonely and the joy of having kids is very fulfilling for a lot of people.
God’s blessings on your future decision. May it be the best for you.
I like kids but I’m not the clucky type that rushes up to people’s babies to coo at them. That’s not a requirement for liking kids.
I may be weird but when I look at a person I see them in all stages of their lives at once; as babies, children, teenagers, adults, senior citizens. I told my spiritual adviser about this and he told me that’s how God also looks at us, our past, present and future, all at once. This makes sense, since God is outside of time.
Anyway, sorry for rambling, I too, think it was better for me not to get married. I don’t think I would have made a great mom.
I feel the same way. I love my fiance with all my heart but I just don’t really want a crying baby to take care of if I’m being perfectly honest. Of course we will be open to it once were married (we think he might have fertility issues anyway based on past experiences before I was baptized), but I would prefer if God didn’t give us any children. Maybe that sounds harsh, but I’d rather other people who truly want them have them instead.
I don’t think it’s wrong, I think it begins to be wrong when you wish harm on them.
Honestly, I feel the same way, I’ve always felt like the celibate life was more of what I wanted. I’ve never had the desire to be married or have children. I’m not good with children. I’ve always wondered if it was because I’m the baby of the family, but I have been an aunt basically my entire life, I have several nieces and nephews, who I love dearly, I care about their well being, but I don’t want to have to babysit, I can only handle them for a few hours.
Some people just weren’t meant to be married or have children.
That is why God made oxytocin. Sometimes referred to as the “stupid” hormone, it is what binds couples through sexual intercourse, and is what binds mothers to babies, particularly through nursing.
Yeah, if you look at a squalling, puking, pooping, demanding, totally self-centered little “bundle of joy” in someone else’s arms, you sometimes wonder if they have lost their minds.
Short answer - yes, they did; and blame it on oxytocin. And God, since He knew we would need a way to make it through the 2 a.m. diaper change and feeding. And the 4 a.m. And the…
When our twins were finally released from the hospital. they came home on heart monitors and a 2 hour feeding schedule. Even after efficiency of scheduling set in, that meant maybe 45 minutes of sleep between feedings.
To this day, I have no patience with someone with their first child who tells me “how busy they are”.
Dang that seems incredibly tough. See though, I just don’t know if I could handle that. Also, what if you have a kid and you don’t really like being a parent? I feel like that has to have happened before, right? People shake babies just to get them to stop crying out of frustration, what if I did something awful like that because I just couldn’t take it anymore? I feel like there’s no way to know these things until you actually have a kid and then it’s too late, ya know?