Yesterday I went to confession with, unfortunately, quite a long list of sins. When I got into the confessional I told the priest I had a lot to say, but that it shouldn’t be more than 15 minutes. He then asked me if I had a list, to which I responded yes, and he told me that was not okay because it would encourage scrupulosity, and that I needed to put the list away and just say what was bothering my conscience. I’m not great at remembering things on the spot, so I consequently forgot the vast majority of what I had on the list. Other priests I’ve confessed to have had no problem with me bringing in a list.
Soon I hope to get into the habit of weekly confession, and when I do that I hope to not have so many sins that I need a list anymore … but until then, I still find myself remembering lots of sins from my life of years past that I want to confess and don’t think I can manage without a list. Should I avoid that priest for future confessions or was he right and I shouldn’t have a list?