Let me begin by saying I am brand-new to the Catholic Church; I have just begun RCIA classes and attending Mass. That said, it is important to me that I fully reform my life and obey God’s laws.
In this process, I am running into a few dilemmas, as I’m sure everyone does. One of the most pressing is the following: I provide childcare to a few families in my neighborhood. Until recently, everyone who has engaged or attempted to engage my services has been a traditional family. However, seeing how well I worked with the children in my care, some friends of one of the families for whom I work, a lesbian couple who are in the adoption process, tentatively engaged me for the unknown future date when they would receive their child.
This was a few months ago, before I had begun the process of becoming a Catholic. Even at that time, my eyes were open regarding the immorality of homosexuality due to having lived in the San Francisco area for nearly 15 years. However, living here for so long has also caused me to adopt a live-and-let-live attitude about my beliefs; any attitude other than acceptance inspires so much anger and disgust at one’s surroundings that day-to-day life becomes difficult. Therefore, at the time I agreed to work for this couple, I simply viewed it as yet another job - after all, they are nice people, in spite of their lifestyle.
Now, however, I’m wondering whether this decision might not have been a grave mistake. Will I be, in essence, condoning their sin, and expressing tacit support for homosexual adoption, by caring for their adopted son? Or is this instead an opportunity to have a positive influence on a child who might otherwise be raised with only distorted ideas about what is right and what is wrong? I am truly conflicted about this, and welcome all opinions and advice.