[quote="BadTurkey, post:1, topic:224422"]
What is your opinion? Is kissing sexual? By kissing, I mean touching of the lips for a few seconds between a man and a woman, who are romantically involved. No tongue, though. Also, for Catholics where pre-marital sex is not allowed, do you only kiss if you're in love with the other person? Or if you kiss someone, do you assume that it's a serious relationship, and you expect the other person to have strong feelings for you?
Who are you kissing? Your grandpa? Your brother? Your boyfriend? A date? Some friend at a cast party who catches you under the mistletoe in order to give you bad time? Some fellow you happened to run into on Time's Square just after midnight on New Year's?
If it isn't a relative, assume it to be sexual....in other words, that it reflects a heterosexual desire, and not merely platonic friendship. You don't know that, but assume that it could mean that. You may not assume that a kiss is intended as a prelude to a serious relationship. The world is full of men, including Catholic men, who are happy to steal a kiss if they get the chance, and who do not have even a remote interest in anything that could be called a "serious relationship". Others, although well-intentioned and wanting to be decent in every way, do not have it in them to resist temptation. (Actually, it goes for women, too. We are all but weak flesh, alas.)
IOW, if you agree to kiss a fellow who may or may not be interested in you, you are opening doors with no guarantees whatsoever. The unfortunate truth is that the same goes for just about everything else that heterosexual couples might be tempted to do. If you don't get a promise, you don't have a promise. Accept that knowledge, and proceed accordingly....that is, with great care.
[quote="C_S_P_B, post:10, topic:224422"]
Nevermind, by your responses, now I know you are female but your age still is critical to know how to address your question.
Maybe you should state whether you want responses from females or from males. You will get more hard hitting brutally honest responses from males that will rock your reality. From women you will likely get kinder responses.
Do you want your world rocked or do you want to be appeased and comforted?
No, age isn't critical. There is no fool like an old fool, and that truism is not gender-specific.
I don't know where you got the idea that the OP's possible intention was either a) comfort and appeasement or b) brutal truth. As far as you know, she hasn't kissed anyone yet. Some of us are wise enough to look before leaping, after all.
Besides, she's talking about kissing. That some kisses might be regretable in retrospect hardly makes the distress involved earth-shaking. Live and learn....and if you get away having only lost a kiss, you've dodged a bullet.