Is masturbating 1 day a week better than everyday?

It’s so hard to keep pure, lately I have been only falling once a week and usually repent afterwards…but again I get strongly tempted at least once a week. Would this be “better” than committing this sin everyday so to say?

I realize it’s wrong regardless of how many times its committed.

It’s a great start on your journey to purity!!! Keep repenting, and soon you will see the latency increase! This is a tough sin to overcome, I know.

One time only, never mind once a week will send you to Hell if you die before repenting. It makes no difference if its once a day, once a week, or monthly. It sounds like you are simply looking for an excuse to justify continuing to sin.

Only Once a week… is that all ! It never ceases to amaze me the amount of times this subject will come alone… Once a week ? at least…

Yes, forget gay marriage. This subject comes up time and again on this forum.

Arguing the toss about it doesn’t seem to get us anywhere…

Best wishes,
Padster

While masturbation is grave matter, it is not always mortally sinful.

Sinning less is always better than sinning more.

I will be honest with you, even that’s not exactly what you asked. I think the only guarantee you can have, is that **not masturbating at all, is infinitely better than masturbating once a week. **

Talking for experience. Months ago I thought that I was physically and mentally addicted to masturbation and pornography. I considered this battle already lost. It was impossible to win.

The only time I started making progressions was when I stopped giving my self these kind of partial **deadlines **(like once a week). I realised that if God, the Bible, the catechism, the religious people, they say that something is wrong, then it is possible to stop.

I said to myself it was enough, I didn’t want to be slave to my body, to my desires. If something were to happen to me I didn’t want to be in state of mortal sin. I confess though, I would still would fall sometimes but I would always resume with the goal of** never masturbate again in my life.**

Since I started thinking that way, and also praying the rosary everyday mixed with exercising at least 3 times a day (giving myself some rest from computers, mobile phone, indoors, etc) I feel like I have finally defeated that habit.

And I am not bragging, but when I see one temptation (on film scenes, etc) I kind of start laughing nowadays, because so far I haven’t found any temptation strong enough to make me consider go back to impurity sins.

And the best things about not having this habit in my life, is that now I can see things clearer. I can focus now in most important things in my life. In fact, masturbation was kind of one anesthesia in times of anger, depression, hopelessness. Now I actually try to face my problems and always keep on prayer. Hope to have helped.

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Hmm, and what about people who do not require help from pornography?

This isn’t a black and white world we live in. Some people have this terrible affliction forced on them by their own body, they don’t need to gawp at porn. And you might yawn on about willpower, but these urges can be overwhelming, unbearable even, especially with testosterone and blood flow in the mix. And you don’t need to be thinking about anything remotely erotic for it to happen either.

I just love the paragons of virtue who populate this forum. It seems that to enter heaven one has to be dead below the waist.

Best wishes,
Padster

What a wise person is this Padster. Made me laugh buckets also. p.s. Jews tried to end this problem and only got as far as the foreskin. Looks like this one will be around for a very long time x

The answer to your question is yes. Masturbating less is always better than more. It is still a sin of grave matter though, and when done with both full consent and full knowledge that it is grave matter it is a mortal sin.
I have been in the same/similar position as you are in. Beating masturbation is not something to take on without the full intention to stop. You have already spaced out your losses in this war to once a week and that’s great! Once you reach the one month point I have heard it gets a lot easier to resist. I found that for me it got easier at about 20 days. After you do beat it though, keep in mind it is an area of weakness for you. Some months after I was free from masturbation I started entertaining thoughts like, “I could masturbate now” and “this is how I could do it” and on multiple occasions I almost did. Don’t fall into the same trap. Don’t test yourself with anything. Just be happy with your freedom when you get it.
To quit masturbating you need a plan. Identify the situations that make you want to masturbate and avoid them. Being alone to much and sleeping on my belly tempted me so I cut back on the alone time and started sleeping on my back and side. What are you going to do when you are tempted? You can do something to take your mind off it like brushing your teeth, you can go interact with other people to take your mind off of the temptation, you can wear a rubber band on your wrist and snap it so you associate pain with masturbating. The list goes on and on. I found that some kind of workout routine is a great outlet for the energy that would otherwise want to come out through masturbation.
The one thing I cannot over stress is that frequent confession is necessary. Both for forgiveness of this sin and help in defeating it. Most churches have confessions before Mass on weekends and if you get to church early than you can go to confession before Mass every week. If you do this you will also be able to receive communion every week.

Quite frankly when it comes to passing calculating judgments, some scholastics are intolerable. You honestly think that is either charitable or true to make such a statement? And even if you could pull out your abacus and see that your sins outweigh your Jesus points (or however legalists do it) the motivation to not sin should be striving for theosis out of love for God, not fear of damnation; that’s a bit of an undeveloped motivation, don’t you think?

Anyway, sexual impurity is a sin and the objective of sin should be elimination, as we all know. However, it’s generally not doable to just end a habit cold turkey (some can, which is great). Reducing the frequency and praying for fortification is essentially what you should do. Whenever you feel any urge, just pray - or better yet, additionally put yourself in a situation that entirely avoids the opportunity.

Once a week is progress towards the virtue of purity. Keep it up and keep praying for God’s grace. Keep in mind that Christ tells us to carry our cross daily, not weekly, monthly, yearly, etc. In the Our Father we ask for our daily bread, and all of this is to help us remember that there is no guarantee tomorrow will come. Ask God every day, to help you be pure for this day. Falling down one stair is progress from failing down a flight of stairs. Tell God thank you for the progress He has made through you and remember to always thank Him since these are His victories we participate in.

Don’t be surprised when you fall, we are fallen creatures. Rather turn toward God with all your heart and say sorry, and ask Him to show you where you let go of His hand. He will show you.

Ask St. Joseph to pray for you:

Prayer to St. Joseph for Purity

Saint Joseph, father and guardian of virgins, to whose faithful keeping Christ Jesus, innocence itself, and Mary, the virgin of virgins was entrusted, I pray and beseech you by that twofold and most precious charge, by Jesus and Mary, to save me from all uncleanness, to keep my mind untainted, my heart pure, and my body chaste; and to help me always to serve Jesus and Mary in perfect chastity. Amen.

Yes, sinning less is always better than sinning more. And if you now do once a week what you used to do every day, that would seem to indicate that you are headed in the right direction. :thumbsup:

I think what Thistle was getting at is that what you do not want to do is to use this as some sort of rationalization to continue with the sin in perpetuity and console yourself that it’s not as bad as it could be and thus you are off the hook and don’t need to try to stop. We don’t want to resign ourselves to our sins and then pat ourselves on the back that we’re better than we could be.

Don’t fall into a pit of despair when you falter. But don’t resign yourself to committing this sin as though it’s inevitable, either. Just keep praying, keep confessing, and keep asking God for help to root this sin out of your life.

Not at all. We are probably the least horny generation in history because, compared to, say, the average Renaissance peasant, we are eating worse, resting less, exercising less, etc. And yet previous generations still produced a bounty of saints. Because they rigorously practiced mortification of the senses, custody of the eyes and thoughts, etc.

Modern Catholics struggle so much with sexual sins because they do not take these things seriously, because they think they’re prudish, unpopular, outdated, etc. In other words, they struggle with sexual sins so often because they are not trying hard enough. I know this because I’ve been and to some extent still am in this boat. I lapse rarely, and when I do it is always because of spiritual sloth and lack of vigilance. I would never, ever presume to pin my failings on Church teachings which previous generations had no problems taking seriously and living faithfully.

Overcoming theses sins requires reorganizing your life in a way that may be inconveniencing. It may mean no longer watching your favorite TV shows if they include periodic flashes of nudity. It may mean rejecting the company of certain people who are bad influences. It definitely means carving time out of your day to more rigorously avail yourself of prayer and the Sacraments (my own average day includes a full Liturgy of the Hours, rosary, and daily Mass), which may mean foregoing certain comforts and diversions. Above all it means not making excuses, not entertaining bitterness, and not pretending like we’re better than history, which had ways of coping with sexual desire that worked.

What a wonderful act of love you have shown by your post. A true version of human reality and sin. Listen up all ! This one below is called compassion, a gift for honesty, and a gift for showing God’s mercy and absolute love. Thank you, please pray for me a sinner x

Gee. Aren’t we the self righteous one? :rolleyes:

Sir, you do not know a thing about the OP. You do not know what kind of struggles he is going through to try and end his problem.

In a simply black & white sense, what you say is true but mitigating factors can also play a part.

Your condescending attitude does not help. Cast the first stone and all that…

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This is the best answer. Not judgemental or assuming, and a good testimony.

In a recent blog post by Matt Fradd here at Catholic Answers, he shared a good quote from CS Lewis on the subject:*“For me the real evil of masturbation would be that it takes an appetite which, in lawful use, leads the individual out of himself to complete (and correct) his own personality in that of another (and finally in children and even grandchildren) and turns it back; sends the man back into the prison of himself, there to keep a harem of imaginary brides.

"And this harem, once admitted, works against his ever getting out and really uniting with a real woman.

"For the harem is always accessible, always subservient, calls for no sacrifices or adjustments, and can be endowed with erotic and psychological attractions which no woman can rival.

"Among those shadowy brides he is always adored, always the perfect lover; no demand is made on his unselfishness, no mortification ever imposed on his vanity.

"In the end, they become merely the medium through which he increasingly adores himself. . . . After all, almost the main work of life is to come out of our selves, out of the little dark prison we are all born in. Masturbation is to be avoided as all things are to be avoided which retard this process. The danger is that of coming to love the prison.”

  • Personal Letter From Lewis to Keith Masson (found in The Collected Letters of C.S. Lewis, Volume 3)*

Are you suggesting murdering one person per month is better then one person per week?
Sinning less is not acceptable. Not sinning is acceptable.

The OP stated he knows its wrong so if he does it anyway (without being mentally impaired or coerced) that’s a mortal sin. The OP does not give an indication that he is mentally impaired.
Why are people always looking for get out of jail free cards.

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