Hello, all. I just had a quick question concerning dispensations from private vows. I recently conferred with my pastor, who granted me a dispensation from some private vows I had made.
I think it was solid, but there waere some things that bothered me. When he granted the dispensation, he mentioned his reasons. He first of all said that I hadn’t invoked God to bear witness to it. (This reason really bothered me, actually, so I made certain to correct him immediately on this fact. I did, in fact, invoke God.) Another reason he mentioned was that there was no witness to the vow. (I’ve done quite a bit of research, and I know there doesn’t need to be a witness to a private vow.)
Long story short, his reasoning was a bit off-kilter. I don’t know if that affects the validity of my dispensation because I know one has to be dispensed for a just cause.
Finally, I should mention that I tend to think things over too much as a scrupulous person. Perhaps it would be in my best interests simply to put this matter to rest. I could be falling into the trap of thinking I know more than a minister of the church. God may be telling me to move on, but I’m trying to find every reason to stay stuck. I just figured I should ask instead of wondering my whole life.