I came into the Catholic Church at Easter of 2013 and my husband (raised Catholic, but poorly Catechized) has still not returned. He got “saved” shortly before we were married and was re-baptized in that church. We have been married almost 15 years. He is still hesitant about going back to confession. I was told by our Associate Pastor that I cannot receive the Sacraments until our marriage is convalidated. This worried me, so I called the Pastor who told me not to worry and that I can still receive the Sacraments because we had started to process of getting our marriage convalidated. Now, it is around 1 and 1/2 years later and I went to see him for advice on how to get things rectified, since my husband doesn’t seem very concerned with getting things right. This time he told me that our marriage is invalid and he thinks I should get a divorce. I’m so confused now! I feel that I’m being punished because my Catholic husband didn’t marry in the Church, though I am the one who desperately wants to receive Communion and now I have been told by yet another priest that I should not until our marriage is convalidated. So…
- Am I forced to wait for a convalidation before I can receive Communion?
- Was the Sacrament of Confirmation even valid for me, if I’m not even permitted to receive Communion now?
- Is my marriage valid, and should we live as brother and sister until the convalidation?