I am a new member, Hi!
I used to go to this one great Catholic Chruch. I always felt so good when I went there. Then one day this new priest joined the clergy owing to the unfortunate death of our Canon.
This (young) priest, same age as me, immdiately established a close network between us. He would email me daily to inform me of which mass he would be holding the next day, so to ensure that was the one I attended and not the mass given my one of the other three priests. Note, normally I attend church only on Sundays and I found it invasive the way this priest was trying to control my time.
Then when I would attend and after service I would go to pray, I would hear him hissing at me from the confession box, for me to come over. “Pssst…Psst.” When I go over, he’s all asking how I am and stuff, but it feels more like he is chatting me up (in a way). Then he asked me to accomany him for lunch in his home, when the other (head) priest was on a formal engagement abroad. I went with my friend. We spent the afternoon in an intimate setting and sharing lots of intimate detail. Then he continued to email me to thank me and to continue inviting me to services, making sure that it was his that I was attending.
I felt overcroweded by him and his imposition on me to stay behind with him aswell. My lovely church no longer felt free but it was a place that I started to avoid and I left. I spent a whole year at a new church.
Recently, I was involved in a major family dilemma and I needed to seek council as I was so confused about which way to go. Given that my new church is currently unstaffed, I went back to him for a conversation. Immediately, he hugged me tightly and said “You look so beautiful.” Then we sat down for the serious conversation, and he kept on trying to hold my hands. Then, instead of focusing on my dilemma, he started asking me if I had a boyfriend and what was the reason that he could not have my phone number. I didnt want to get into why I didnt have a boyfriend, even though the whole reason I was there was to discuss my being victim of abuse, so I just gave him my number. Then he asked me why I did not have a boyfriend. I said “there are no good men,” at which point he said “I am a good man” and laughed.
Later, when I was attempting to talk again about the reason I was there, he whispered in my ear saying “so when are you going to invite me to your house for dinner?”
There are some more bits but you get the gist. What bugs me even more about him is that he is so personal and intimate (in the way I described, only) face to face and when we exchange emails, he turns all formal and fraternal. It makes me feel like an object of his manipulation.
So, those of you who know more than me and are otherwise objective to this situation, could you tell me please whether I am blowing this out of proportion by thinking that I should report him and he is being inappropriate. Or is he being appropriate and cool?
Many thanks in anticipation of your answers.