Is porn all that bad?


#1

I’m pretty new to this just a heads up. Anyways I was wondering if porn is bad I do watch it and masturbate to it but I was just wondering why you think it’s bad. All my friends and I watch it or just talk about it and we don’t really think it’s bad. I heard its natural and porn is fine. Just wondering what you think about porn and why.


#2

I think pornography changes people in your mind from being a person to being an object.

I think pornography takes a very real toll on your mind and places you in a false reality.

It consumes you so that you constantly have to start looking for more extreme and bizarre forms of it.

It is extremely addictive and habit forming.

It destroys relationships and makes it much more difficult to ever have a loving marriage.

Many women are horribly exploited by pornography, there is a growing “sex slave” market throughout the world thanks to it. Women are raped for pornography, young women intoxicated and/or taken advantage of by much older men. Women are highly pressured into it. Poor women are pushed into it by offered financial rewards (which is prostitution if you think about it). Women are betrayed by their ex’s for it.

Thus, Pornography is a form of cruelty and adds to the cruelty of the world and will transform you into a more cruel person.


#3

Sex is not intrisically bad or evil in fact it is the greatest gift of all for though it we share in the act of creating a new life with a soul.

It is a source of pleasure which should cement the bond whith the spouse in a union that is both carnal and spiritual.

Porn is a deviation of what real sex is, by objectifying it for the sole purpose of giving pleasure, it cheapens it. It becomes like a drug, your brain wants more and more of it until it no longer gives you pleasure and you start trying to find alternatives ways of obtaing pleasure. Which can devolve into some pretty weird abberrations.

It is like the drug addict that when the habitual drug ceases to cause pleasure starts injecting him/herself with lighter fluid. (believe me it has happened)

Masturbation is just the mechanical part of the adiction, and believe me an addiction it is.
Try to stop masturbating for a week, you will find any excuse to do it.



#4

Sex is sacred. It is given to us by God as a source of life. It is a symbol of the Trinity: two beings come together in love and that love takes form as a third person. Leaving aside how destructive porn is to oneself and others, porn is sacrilege.


#5

A very wise post. Porn changes the ability of the brain to be aroused in a normal loving relationship. It ruins your chance of enjoying a long term relationship with one woman.
It demeans women and destroys the lives and souls of many on both sides.
Cut loose before you become addicted. It is a real evil.


#6

GamingBro! Where did you come up with this question. I had a good laugh when I read it and I admire the fact that you are so open to masturbation! :slight_smile: Seriously, it is not a posting that we come across everyday in Catholic Answers… .and in a more or less conservative Catholic site at that :slight_smile: Too funny.

Anyways, yeah the teaching of the church is quite clear…and much of it is augmented by JP II’s Theology of the Body, so your not going to get an answer saying that your point fits within Catholic doctrine…although we are all sinners and probably masturbate now and again :slight_smile:

There is a lot on Youtube right now about porn addiction and how your brain and cognitive abilities process porn. Many have lost their ability to ejaculate and function normally in terms of sex and it has to do with how are brains process it and produce seratonin…naturally produced feel-good chemicals in our brains. So there is a biological cost to porn…

Look forward to more of your reflections and take care GamingBro…

Trickster
Bruce Ferguson


#7

For those who want to quit:feedtherightwolf.org/


#8

It objectifies women. Every human being is made in the Image and Likeness of God and each one of us has value because Jesus willingly died so we may one day go to Heaven to be with Him for all eternity. When you masturbate while viewing a naked woman, I doubt her value as a child of God is at the forefront of your mind. In contrast, you are using her as a means for your pleasure, thereby objectifying her. You can think of a lot of things and conclude what purpose they are intended to be used for. (example: Chairs were created to be sat upon, utensils were designed in order to help us eat etc…) Women and men were created to be cherished in their complete nature, not only in bits and pieces as pornography reduces a human being to. Face it, you’re not watching pornography because you care about the totality of a woman. You are reducing her to just the parts you can get use from as you disregard the rest. That is objectification. You are saying, “The only worth you have to me, is by serving this function. When that function is completed, I’ll put you away and not give you another thought, no different than if you were a Kleenex that I happened to blow my nose on.” That isn’t how we should treat our fellow man ( and woman).


#9

People tend to hear what makes them comfortable and seek opinions that agree with their point of view. There are people who say it is natural but the research does not support this. Surrounding yourself with friends who watch it and think it is OK just helps to contribute to an addiction which will take you over and make relationships difficult. One of the ways I taught my children to determine if something was OK, besides learning the doctrine of our faith, was to ask themselves “could I do this at home with my family?” If you are sneaking around you can pretty much count on what you are doing to not be OK whether your faith prohibits or not. Do yourself a favor, since you are seeking the truth, and research some of the Catholic places on the internet that address this. Go to the previous threads on this forum for a wealth of ideas as to how to do this. I will pray for the Hoy Spirit to guide you forward to the truth on this subject.


#10

Porn is gravely sinful and is mortally sinful if done with full consent of the will and knowledge that it is grave matter. Porn objectifies the people in the pictures and/or films. When you watch porn, you’re making those people into objects. You’re using them solely for your sexual pleasure and therefore you are not respecting them as person’s created in the image of God. Also, you are lusting after them which is also sinful. Masturbating is also gravely sinful. All sins against chastity are sinful because you are misusing your sexual faculties. God created you with sexual faculties so that way if you get married, you can bond with your spouse and reproduce. Any usage that goes contrary to that such as pornography or masturbation is grave matter. The one thing about masturbation though is that there are certain things that can reduce one’s culpability for it. It’s listed in the Catechism of the Catholic Church.


#11

Hi GamingBro,

Thanks for your question! This is a big issue that a lot of young men struggle with.

Here’s the thing: There’s been a lot of scientific research on the effects of pornography and almost all of it is negative. Some of the more commonly reported effects are sexual dysfunction, a callousness to, or even endorsement of sexual violence, and a general lack of healthy sex drive.

The problem is this: Our sexual pleasures are meant to be enjoyed between a man and a wife. When there isn’t even another person present, we psychologically enforce the idea that sexual pleasure comes at a Google search and not something that can be shared between two people. So later in life, pornography viewers tend to be sexually dissasitisfied with their partners and there are even surveys done where men openly admit to preferring pornography to their sexual partners.

So the reality is, it may seem harmless on the surface, but if completely destroys your sex drive, your interest in sexual intimacy and satisfaction with a sexual partner.

Hope that helps!


#12

^^^^^ T H I S ^^^^^ and the question - what if that was your own mother, sister, daughter or other female relative being objectified in that manner by strangers? :mad:

Plus all the things others have said about how it drags God’s beautiful creation through the mud, and it warps your own mind and conditions your physical responses in a negative way. Please address this seriously and overcome this before it gets worse.


#13

Because we have a fallen nature and tendency to sin, we need our Lord Jesus Christ and all the help that He gives us in the sacraments.

True happiness is found in obedience to what the Lord wills for us. The Lord has this in mind…our eternal happiness with Him. We were made for Him, and He knows what is best for us!

Many good insights have been given by most posters.


#14

School is out. We are going to be getting a lot of this.


#15

Well, I do commend him for actually coming here to ask. I hope he gets something out of the discussion! :slight_smile:

To the OP- pornography is wrong because it takes sexual intercourse, which is reserved for the privacy of the marriage covenant out into the open, dehumanizes it, and violates its sanctity, turning people into objects (which is obviously wrong).

May God bless you and show you the Light of His Truth! :slight_smile:


#16

Pornography is in no way natural. Just because many people do it, doesn’t mean it’s natural, or good. Many people get abortions - is deliberate procured abortion ‘natural?’

Pornography turns women (and men) into mere objects to be used, as other’s have posted. Several have written and spoken that the problem with pornography is not that it shows too much, but that it shows too little of the human person.

Some resources I would highly recommend you read:

covenanteyes.com/e-books/ The e-books at Covenant Eyes are fantastic, written by some of the leading chastity speakers and authors in North America. Also, Covenant Eyes provides a great monitoring and accountability service for those addicted to porn, looking to break free.

pornharms.com/
mattfradd.com/
Both of these sites have great info on them about the effects and dangers of pornography, both to the users, and the producers.

Lastly, I would say that watching porn is the least manly thing you can do. No one wants to grow up to be a man that uses and abuses people, yet that’s what porn does. Most men want to be heros, someone to look up to. As St. Josemaria Escriva said: “Don’t say: ‘That’s the way I’m made… it’s my character’. It’s your lack of character: Be a man.” In fact, in Spanish, the word for ‘man’ is vir… the root of the word ‘virtue.’ So, to be a true man, a man needs to be virtuous. Engaging in porn, masturbation, and other intrinsic evils is not virtuous, it is not manly. I spent 15 years chained by a porn addiction, and the freedom of being wrapped in Our Lady’s chains is the ultimate freedom!


#17

Alleluia! Thank you for that post.

Sadly, many are not aware that hell is an option.

The Lord wants us to be with Him! Forever! Indescribable joy and happiness!


#18

Hello GamingBro, and welcome. The simple answer to your question is “yes, porn is bad.” You’ve received some very good answers in this thread already, so I thought I would just augment them here.

In order to understand why porn is bad, setting aside the clear evidence that it is (i.e., the deleterious effects it has on you, your mind, and your sex drive, and also the horrendous way women in that industry are treated, and also the poor way women are treated by men who are addicted to pornography), we should first understand the nature of our own human sexuality.

The mentality of western culture is that we are animals, behaving as animals behave, and the idea of any kind of sexual morality is more a matter of evolved social norms than anything to do with behaviour that is authentically derived from human nature. This mentality ignores the simple fact that we are, for example, not dogs or fish or birds, but humans. And as humans, we are intelligent, self-aware, and can act freely, and truly altruistically.

A dog may appear to rape another dog, and we wouldn’t think anything of it. Why? Because rape involves the notion of free consent. Dogs don’t have this. Humans do. So, acting upon every sexual urge we have is not a human thing to do, it’s an animal thing to do. We hold to this notion of free consent because we are respecters of the personhood that is held by every human. There is dignity in people that we must respect.

So what about sexuality itself. We may look at our biology and understand that our bodies are designed to work in concert with each other. In other words, the sexual act is inherently inter-personal. Physically, two bodies come together in the sexual act. Metaphysically, two persons come together in the sexual act. Sexual intercourse is by its own nature the coming together of two persons in love and openness.

So what about pornography (and by extension masturbation)? Here are two really simple questions to ask: 1) Are two people coming together in love and openness in this sexual encounter? and 2) Is there a personal connection here? The answer to both of these questions is no.

Pornography is selfish, entirely. The men and women (in some cases, but not all by any stretch of the imagination… many are forced into it) and pornographers in the industry act selfishly by using you for your money. The viewers of pornography act selfishly by using the men and women in the porn to gratify their sexual urges. This is entirely contrary to true human sexuality, which is wholly about love and respect for the other, about giving yourself to the other. In pornography, the pornographers expose their bodies for pleasure, but hide themselves, while the viewer of pornography is completely hidden, both body and soul, from the other. In true human sexuality, the loving couple open themselves up entirely to the other, body and soul. That is the language of human sexuality.

Pornography and masturbation are a perversion of true human sexuality. They use subjects as though they were objects. They are closed in on themselves, rather than opening themselves up to the beloved. As such, they warp not merely the sexual relationship, but also normal human friendships. Intimacy between men becomes seen as somehow homosexual. Intimacy between siblings becomes seen as somehow incestuous. Mere politeness between people of opposite sex becomes seen as somehow flirtatious. Pornography destroys human relationships, human closeness.


#19

Go to lighthouse Catholic media and check out “Detox” by Jason Everett. $3.50 well spent…


#20

I’d also recommend Jeff Cavin’s “Defeating Satan’s Deadly Weapon Against Men”


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