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I am a young Catholic male looking to start dating soon. I have been focusing on living chastely over the past year to clean my mind of a past riddled with lust and sinful relationships. Eventually I would like to start dating again with the intention of finding a proud to be Catholic sort of woman equally interested in growing in holiness together, living chastely, with the same goal of holy matrimony and parenting in the future.
One of the 'pro's' to having a wife is that by being yoked together the burdens of living are lessened. Suppose I meet a great catholic woman and things are going great. Would it be a sin for her and I to get a 2 bedroom apartment together and not share a room? I am wondering if this would be cohabitation, and if you think it would be an occasion of sin.
Thank you in advance
Not a good idea.
First, it would almost certainly be a near occasion of sin. It is the nature of people to be physical if they are in love. Living together would only make those feelings harder to resist.
Second, it would be a cause of scandal to your family and other people you come in contact with. Most people have a hard time believing that a man and woman living together are not having sex, even if they are "only friends".
Third, even though it flies in the face of modern beliefs, couples who live together before marriage have a much higher divorce rate than those who don't.
Also, abstinence and chastity are not the same thing. Abstinence is not having sex. Chastity is living out God's design for man and woman within the state of life to which one is called. For two people to live together, if they are romantically involved, violates chastity even if they abstain from sex.