There was a thread on this forum a few months back where we had a disagreement as to whether a person should ever ask their spouse why they did not receive communion. I was taught, as a child, that one should never ask another person why they did not go to communion. People disagreed with me. I can certainly see the case where a person is scared their spouse (or parent for that matter) is going to want to know something that is very private and this causes enough of a delima to where the culpability of receiving out of the state of grace is reduced. As for making a perfect contrition in these cases, that is certainly the correct approach.
Note: I do not want to restart that discussion, just thought I would share a scenario with people who seem to think it impossible for you two to be correct.